Tammy is such a nice girl, but so hard to be with---she just does not shut up! She rambles on and on, giving every single, minute detail about things we don’t really care about in the first place.

Why doesn’t anyone tell her? We don’t want to hurt her feelings. We do not want to strain the relationship. We don’t want her angry at us. So, we limit the time we spend together to tolerable segments.

Randi is a hard worker; however, she will probably not get the promotion she hoped for because her insecurities and constant questions get on everyone’s nerves. Instead of just doing the task at hand, she questions and questions every single detail. Unfortunately, she ends up undermining her chances for success.

What a gift for someone to gently help Tammy or Randi. Most of us will not put ourselves in this position. So, these poor souls go on making the same work and social errors, time and time again.

If there is someone in your life, who thinks enough of you, to give you constructive criticism, be grateful. Our natural inclination upon hearing critical words is to defend our ego and strike back. “How dare she say that?” Or, “who the heck is she to criticize me!”

Take a moment and really analyze the critical advice. Give yourself some times to digest and consider the suggestions. You may have just received a precious gift that will prove helpful to your success!

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