Change may be inner directed, outer directed or a little bit of both. Inner directed change comes from within. It is a decision you make for yourself to increase satisfaction in your life. For example, the catalysts for making the decisions to find a new job, move to a new city, learn a new skill, end a relationship or retire are most often self motivated.

Outer directed change comes from outside. It is a change that is thrust upon you. Examples of outer directed change are the loss of a loved one, illness, termination, or the loss of savings in a bear market. Sometimes changes are a combination of both inner and outer directed decisions.

In any event, change causes anxiety. You are leaving the known for the unknown. The fear may be so paralyzing that you are tempted to remain in horrific circumstances just to avoid the discomfort of uncertainty. Ambrose Redmoon was correct in declaring, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but the judgment that something else is more important than the fear.”

It is unrealistic for you to expect to undergo transition without experiencing fear and anxiety. You will be thrown off balance and it is unsettling. However, you must realize that the courage is in the determination that reaching your new goal is more important that the transient fear that you will experience. Whether the new goal is specific like finding a more rewarding job or amorphous like surviving the death of a spouse----you must determine that regaining your equilibrium and moving on is crucial for your emotional well being.

What is stopping you from moving on?

Laura@realwomenwin.com #bereal.