EMPTY nester.
Posted by Laura Black in Authenticity and Family
Tuesday, June 28th at 5:00 pm (Permalink)
You said your good byes
As brave as you could or could not be
And you left
And your heart is empty
And you’ve memorized all the platitudes:
“You’re still her mother”
“Before you know it she’ll be home”
“Now it’s your time”
And still you grieve
And not just for the loss of your child
But, for the loss of part of your self—your purpose, your meaning
And for now you need to mourn and grieve and remember
And soon—the hole will fill
You will open your heart to new pleasures, new experiences, new meanings
And pride will overcome you
As you marvel at the adult that you raised.
As brave as you could or could not be
And you left
And your heart is empty
And you’ve memorized all the platitudes:
“You’re still her mother”
“Before you know it she’ll be home”
“Now it’s your time”
And still you grieve
And not just for the loss of your child
But, for the loss of part of your self—your purpose, your meaning
And for now you need to mourn and grieve and remember
And soon—the hole will fill
You will open your heart to new pleasures, new experiences, new meanings
And pride will overcome you
As you marvel at the adult that you raised.